Part 5: those messages girls get

I’ve held onto this one for awhile, and its a hard one, and I don’t want to get in the wrong either. This Bad Date is not going to be funny, the word dick pic will be used A LOT and that’s my ‘warning’ if you don’t want to read. 

Bad Dates Series A city Girl Story

In the wake of women standing  and speaking up against sexual harassment and sexual assault, what’s happening in Hollywood, everywhere else, in #metoo and recently one of my favourite bloggers Frassy called out the creepy men that message her; and me fearing to share my stuff because I “know” what will happen but all I want to do is be creative. So it’s time to talk about those catcalling, dick pics, and those messages you get from guys.

If a guy says something or does something that is offensive I’m going to call  him out and hope he apologizes- they usually don’t. If a guy is going to grab my butt, I will kick him. And suddenly I’m the bad person?? Once I watch a guy reach, a foot away, with his hand going for a girl under her skirt. I slapped it so fast and screamed NO! For some beeping reason, guys think this is okay to say, touch, do, message girls. I was listening to the podcast called Its Galz (when I got this idea for this post-MONTHS AGO) which talked about those demeaning, sexualised,  messages girls get FROM STRANGERS. They talked about how guys think just because a girl posted a cute, sexy selfie or snap doesn’t mean you can DM her and start sending crude rude messages to her. It happens, and with dating, it happens, way too often. You kind of wonder if there is actually a decent guy out there who isn’t going to send you a picture and you know exactly what it is before you even open it.

Don’t you take it as a compliment? a guy asked me on a date once.

We are taught to take it as a compliment. That when a guy wants to “fuck you on that bed” that this is a good thing. When you are trying to get to know a guy and all he is  wanting is to meet you up for the night, drive around in his car, calls you at 4 am in the morning waking you up from your sleep to “come over.” Sending you dick pics after your having a nice conversation. I once got a dick pic from a guy who took it under the desk while still in the library. I sent a message back saying “did you seriesly just send me that, while you are in the library?” AND HE DID IT AGAIN!!

IS SO MESSED UP! For god sakes, I didn’t ask you to send me a picture of your dick that I thought was your elbow! That random hi you get from a stranger in your DMS turns to him wanting your number. And when you tell him no, your the bad guy? Here’s a tip  for those guys: fuck off, keep your dick in your pants, and stopppp! No girl has asked for anything, no girl or anyone post or is talking to you for you the creepy guy who thinks its okay to be so DISGUSTING. That is sexual harassment, and in 2017 you really should stop.

Girls, its not our fault.

You posted that selfing because you posted it after you felt good about yourself and their comments belittle you down like your nothing. HOW DARE THEY! Pull a 180 after talking about joining you for a walk with their dog sending half-naked pictures of himself in the mirror like damn he had abs but like really we were having a nice conversation then you send me that video? But I saw it, and I couldn’t believe you SENT THE EXACT SAME one like was it saved or something??? There is so much a girl can fake with guys but when it comes to those messages, pictures, words, and actions. You can’t fake or go along with any longer.

A guy sending his dick isn’t flattery it’s degrading. Sending her messages out of the blue, telling her how she looks makes your horny, is horror. It sure isn’t sweet or romantic.  Thinking the way to a girls heart or to her bedroom is to talk down to her, make her feel worthless or feel worth it but then make her feel like scum. That is not okay, and we girls deserve better than this. We are more than a body to fuck and we are more than just something to look at; we are more than those pointless snaps of your dick!

Girls, don’t be afraid to speak your mind, to tell the guy who said you look fuckable to fuck off, don’t take those DMs or those catcalls as a compliment. Because it is harassment. I have this t-shirt that says “not yours”  and I wear it with pride because I’m sure in hell, not yours to honk at.

When you’re dating a guy what do you do when he does become a dick of a creep sending you pictures, and talking “dirty” but it isn’t dirty it’s degrading.

I think with online dating, social media, a guy asking you for your snap, ability to send pictures, DMS– that we don’t have to be smart about it we ALREADY ARE smart about it. That if they’re not going to teach boys we will!! To tell the guy you know what I didn’t ask for that dick pick and I showed all my friends & we had a great laugh. Hit the block button, say goodbye, and know if your dating a guy and all he’s doing is sending you dick picks and changing the subject into something sexual the guy’s a pig.

Not all guys are like this, people have their thoughts on “all” but I know decent guys, I was raised by one, the issue is that this has happened too many times, and it’s a big issue and it HAS BEEN. It just happens #metoo, the stories in the news, and more women calling out guys that FINALLY action might be taken place. Women/girls just want to feel free to be themselves and they really can’t when they share a picture and a guy comments saying “you have really blue eyes *wink(” And all I can say is “thanks I got them from my dad”.

There are so many stories out there, that are bigger than those message girls get, and for any girl (&boy) who has been taking advantage of, sexually harassed, sexually assaulted it is not your fault, it’s not my fault either. For the ones who shared their story, you bring change and voices to so many people. I hope one day we can live without this shame and blame of the victim and stop asking “what she was wearing.”

P.S for the guys (lads) we need you to teach, stand up, and go agents. Ask yourself where are you and where will you be on this issues?

I couldn’t hold onto this post any longer and I really do hope I did this post justice.

 

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City Girl Style: Girl Power Tees are more than a trend

let’s talk about how those girls empower t-shirts that everyone is wearing but no one seems to be talking.

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Don’t get me wrong here, I love the graphic empowering Tees I just have some concerns.

 

We live in a time where being women, a girl, a lady is important.  More women are fighting and speaking up, calling it out, and saying it straight up. Even younger girls are too. And our clothes are a way of expressing , most definitely.  I’m only wondering if this trend a good thing or a bad thing for women solidarity. What do you think?

In a podcast (it Galz) they pointed out that wearing a t-shirt that says “feminist” is more than a trendy thing to buy.  I can’t remember the exact words they said, I can’t even remember the episode all I remember is they had a point. That this girl power, solidarity, feminist, women empowerment is more than a trend or a fab.  Being a girl, standing in solidarity, equality, Girl boss or girl power is not a “trending” or hashtag thing. It’s an ACT.

 

I’m not saying you shouldn’t wear these T-shirts, I’m all for the activist T-shirts–did you see my FB post that it’s not Band Tee’s anymore. I wonder if its a trend vs. an act. That if your going to wear the Tees you should definitely believe and stand up for what those tees represent. Or are you wearing it for the trendy factor?

I worry that the purpose and goal for feminism will get lost. So many people are wearing them more then speaking up. A lot of people are speaking up, don’t get me wrong but A lot more could be.

 

It’s not even T-shirts, these slogans of “Girl club” “not yours” are on any item of clothing,accessory. Instagram feeds are growing to be more feminists girl power base. But when I asked a girl if she was all for girl power she said “sure, I think it’s really cute though.”

The positive sides to all this it’s turning attention on women issues and will gain more attention, bring a more positive to feminism.

So the question is why are you going to buy the T-shirt for it’s “cool” and “trending” Or are you wearing it to make a bold symbolical statement of what change we want to see in the world. & not only wear it but speak it, walk the walk?

So before you buy a feminist slogan T-shirt from Zara or H&M think about these places where the % goes to some great organisations that do things for women and then some.Processed with VSCO with a5 preset

  • Google Ghost Nasty shirt: % goes to Planned Parenthood
  • My Sister.org: they are fighting and educating on sex trafficking
  • Female Collective: it is a place that uplifts and supports women also works with artist, writers, etc.
  • Feminist Apparel: has some great stuff that they even partner with some organisation.
    *Having a t-shirt like this is a good conversation starter because if someone says I like your t-shirt we say “Penny’s girl” imagine what we say when we tell them we got it at one of these organisations?!?!

Slogan girl power T-shirt are a cool item to wear but  it is more than a trendy fashion piece.  Wear it and also join the movement, educate yourself about women issues, basically stand with woman not only wear it. A way is to get involved in any way possible. It’s more than a fashion statement its a movement to a whole new future for women.Processed with VSCO with 2 preset

I strongly see the future is FEMALE especially if we keep going in this direction!

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Lookbook: Zara Romper and my femininity

Lookbooks can either be just photographs that I love to look at but this one I’m not going to talk about my romper and why I’ve been loving it but how this romper is embrace femininity.

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To start off the lookbook I’m taking a quote from a book I am reading called You don’t have to like me by Alisa Nugent: “make choices about yourself instead of following all the rules, and abandon the notion that you need to follow any path in order to be a “real woman!” (Introduction xviii) that quote and the title is more me than anything.

The question I am going to be answering here is “what can you, a girl, wear when you are a feminist-or have strong beliefs, thoughts on women’s rights and equality.”  Because I feel like some days I have to be wearing my slogan T-shirts that say things like “not your body” and “make a women cum for once” LOLs. Because when I wear a cute outfit people seem to be caught off guard when I speak my mind or say “I’m a feminist.” Its like I’m wearing a mask or some kind of disguise.


 

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Wearing my Zara Romper

…..doesn’t make me lower myself, but embrace myself. This pin strip romper can easily be taking something that its not. Wearing it not only embrace my womenhood (1) it also gives me this femininity empowerment. I rock the V-neck with no fear or care for those judgment or lingering eyes. It’s girly enough but I can dress it Indie or Grunge- my two main styles when I’m not in T-shirts or jeans.  Pair it with a long necklace and some brown shoes and some body tattoos or grunge it up with a chocker and a messy half pony. The cut outs and bow tie with the ruffle end shorts bring a different twist to this romper that someone can easily say “you shouldn’t be wearing that it showing to much skin.” I say HELL to that.

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We are taking back our style  as our own. For instance heels, a shoe can seen as something that is sexy, long gates our legs making the eyes linger. But now  heels are heard with empowerment and determination in the street, into a building, into the office. I’m seeing it in a lot of girls, 20 something ladies and women who put on an outfit and rock it- not too look cute but to be a women! We aren’t standing in front of a car half naked legs open, no we are on the front of Sports illustrative with our thick thighs. It’s not only in the clothes we wear, but in the action we take, the things we say. We aren’t some pretty little thing, we are women who mean businesses. The clothes can do all the talking but we take all the credit.

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This romper is my own femininity meets feminist. It’s my feminist romper. When I put it on I feel good because I know what I look like. And no hooting or looks is going to change that. I wear the romper with a purpose to not hide who I am, even in this I could still through a baseball just as good as any guy.

Our style are joining the revolution of women. Taking what is ours back. Fashion is all about taking risk, going out of the normal, embrace the unusual meets chic so do it with a point that next time someone says you look good, make sure they know you already know that, and your also here for a reason.

The goal for each lookbook or picture I post with #wiw isn’t to tell you what I wear but to bring power and femininity back into ourselves through clothing. I’m a feminist with style.


  1. a word I never really understood or even liked, it sounded old to me. But now I have this new found meaning of womanhood. That wonderfully female feeling that is mine no one else’s it’s mine (yours) sexuality. 🖤
    A word that can easily be consider “dirty” for a woman. But it’s not! It’s how we feel. How we embrace ourselves. It is something that is hard to find and seize but when you do you’ll feel this sense of love and strength in yourself, your mind and body. And most importantly it’s yours. Remember It will never belong to someone else! ✨ what I’m saying is embrace you’re womanhood 👄 feel no shame & if others try to demean you or put you down well….that says a lot about them selves also shame on them!

 


 

 

Trying to make it in the working world, the truth from a 20 something girl with a masters.

you hear it over and over again, we are snowflakes, lazy generation. And my response is you don’t know my life. So, if you really want to know what it’s like to be a millennium trying to make a life for herself in a society that makes you feel like you need to have that house, job, and so much by now read. 

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Holding my completed thesis from University College Cork.

If you’re not following me on instagram, why aren’t you? I posted something middle of July of a long caption basically confessing how I am going through something personal and how I think about if I don’t share it am I even being real. And how sometimes not sharing is just fine. THIS BLOG POST is me telling what’s going on, it wasn’t going to be it was going to be how to get through difficult days, but how many list can you read. I decided that after having the 100th disappointment come my way after 9 months of chugging alone, feeling so discourage, losing my determination;  I should write this what if someone else out there is in the same boat. 

People keep telling me that it’ll work out in the end, something will come soon. And how lucky they have so a positive perspective, I am not an optimistic at all–I’ve been disappointed and crushed by high hopes for so long I will admit I am bitter. What drives me is my determination, my mind set for when I want something there is no stopping me. But after so many ‘strike outs’ I don’t have that determination, I have frustration and tears, and fears that for the rest of my life I’m not going to get pass working retail and will never have that life I left Ireland for. It’s like I’m back in my final year of college trying to pass English Syntax; getting those test back with D’s all over them while the guy next to me got an A, but saw he had something marked off and he’s ready to fight. OH I”M DONE! That is exactly how I feel every time when I don’t get that job.

I began to wonder what can I do. Is it because of my blog? Being so honest and real, people don’t like that, talking about being a women in this world, having a learning disability. I wonder how other ladies do it, how they are so successful, how they make it through so many no’s to their face. I really get discourage when I find out they’re younger then me, and I’m like did I miss my door? Never compare yourself. 

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here’s a puppy to make life a little better

I read so many articles of millennium and the statistics of how we aren’t lazy but how we are a generation with the largest of jobless careers. (when I find that article I read I’ll link it here). What do you expect when they want for experience is 10 years and you’re like at 14, I was babysitting. Or what about how they combine writing with web page design. The pressure of societies expectations, from relatives faces, fact you knew how great your life was and now look at yourself. You can’t help but feel like a total fucking failure.  I’m not saying this cause I want pity I’m saying this to let ladies out there who are feeling like shit, disappointed, and looking them selves in the mirror with disappointment–that you’re not alone on the whole fucking suck scale. And you wish people will stop telling you it’ll work out because all you want is for it to JUST work out!

Because all you want is a life, for that apartment in the city, to afford the apartment in the city, to have benefits–don’t even get me started. To not feel like despite having a masters you’re worth it. To not feel like you wasted 4 years of a degree. They told you to go to college and that’s not even enough. SCREAM!

10 minutes and a work out later. I bounce back, with still struggles, still so many questions what else can I do, feel discourage for you don’t even know. The struggle is there are a lot of people out there-250 people applied for that position, the baby boomers are still working. And you’re kind of what can you bring to the table other than “yourself.” You really got to sell yourself, something I’m really trying to work on. I was asked “why me” the first time I answered:  “oh god what if the other person is nice,” that shows my character but guess you can’t show that your a caring person. Then the struggle in finding that actual job you want.  Honestly feel like this side of the world really does not put a lot of credit to creative jobs or people. For instance, I see other girls making content for a coffee shop or a pub in England. Here there is nothing like that. Trust me I looked, I even try doing freelance positions but again I feel like its the door thing & not much out there. It is worst than Ikea directions! 

quote.jpgThough, I don’t have any suggestions on what more can you do, what can you put on your CV or in cover letters, because I am still trying to figure that out. What I can tell you is so many times in school after failure, failing out of syntax and actually getting into my car ready to drop out of college, the fact I didn’t, those struggles were hard but I got through them. Look at all the stories I’ve said, the moments I shared.  I am not a patient and high hopes person, like I said, but I do know failure always wins. So I say take a break, try to take the pressure off yourself and wait to apply when you’re not feeling so discouraged but feeling confident. So many times when I bounce back still having tears in my eyes, looking at jobs kind of just makes it worst. I get it you want to have that career, you want to get out of this shit whole your feeling, you want to use what you not only went to school for, but love doing. And you just wish it would! My friend told me that there’s an Irish saying “whats for you won’t pass you” & so far a lot of the things/people that have pass me were never for me, it took awhile to realise that, so I believe in that saying.

WOW. that felt good to write. If you too are going through the same struggles and frustration let me know if this helped in anyway, or have any advise. That is why I wrote this not for pity I said it because someone else out there is probably sitting on her bedroom floor screaming into a pillow and wanting to give up just let her life be what it is.

Being a girl is expensive

Warning periods are being talked about. 

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You walk into a shop and head to that section. There are rows and rows of different brands, types, and orders. There is this overwhelming feeling and also a little embarrassing feeling because people that pass you know you have your period. Feeling unease you get to the register trying to act like you are just doing a pick up of things with shampoo, razors, body washes, some foundation causes your skin isn’t perfect.  Everything goes through and then the guy who too is trying to ignore that item he just scanned, he’ll probably wash his hands after, tells you $60.95.

Shit just hit the fan.

To live a life without fear, rejection, and safety we need to buy a few things; yet the price is too much! It shouldn’t be this complicated, I just want something to take care of it. nothing too fancy, nothing to let me play soccer; because no kind of tampon is going to make it “feel” any better, do you even know where those things are going? It won’t be nice. But there’s more to just buying a box of tampons.

We take Advil, that cost money, we buy a heating pad that cost money. We go to the doctor and they give us this hormone pill that cost money and feeling  shame for it. We are supposed to get over it, or worst when I’m not PMSing I’m still PMSing.  Or how about the fact that we are girls we have our bodies and blood is coming out of a place that when your 13 your like “Holy crap I am dying!” is not even considered as the important issue or even on the shelf or something to be covered. But, your penis pumps are. (Oh yes I said it Penis PUMP).We go through so much when on our periods. Not only the pain and trying to take care of it. But the worry of can you see? Let me double check in this mirrors. And sitting, I don’t know about you but I hate sitting!

Having our periods is more than what it means to be a woman. Or that it’s the beauty of mother nature. Cause it really isn’t that beautiful in my eyes.

For me having my period was always this annoying, I have it I’m going to tell you thing. When I walk into a shop to go buy some tampons and pads I honestly wave it around like I don’t care. When living in the village where word gets around faster than you can spell MISSISSIPPI. The woman who I knew would ask me if I wanted a brown bag; I would say no. For A. I have no shame. B. it’s my period. When I was younger I had to leave school early, because of “female issues” it’s not an excuse it is valid. Because sitting in ASL listening to the teacher ramble on and on while I’m there wishing I was in a ball on the floor. Thankful, I was able to go to the doctor and get the hormone pill (little blue pill aka birth control) for this pain inside me. But some aren’t as lucky.

There is no metaphor, period.

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Here we are dealing with our woman “issues” while others decided what we can and can not have for ourselves. Putting a price on our body and well-being is

the worst thing ever! Telling us that we aren’t covered yet this is our health, this is our well-being?!  Our bodies are dealing with a lot and not only does the pain hurt like hell, it’s one thing we treat like it doesn’t matter. When all we want is a safe, less pain and not going to break the bank, should be free from opinions and price tag for us to live our life with no worry of shame, BS, and our health. Being a girl shouldn’t be this expensive.

 

Period.

 

How to handle sexism like a boss

Today we are talking about what young girls face every day and how we need to fight through it and empower.

Processed with VSCO with a5 presetThere has been a lot of sexism happening in the news, in media, in politics and in my own life.  And as a blogger, I’m not supposed to talk about it. But I’m a blogger who is passionate about women’s rights overall and I’m writing to give inspiration and motivation for young girls and 20 something ladies. So, I am going to talk about sexism. And this post isn’t only about how to overcome sexism, but for those young girls out there to know it’s okay to be a strong independent woman!

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Found on Pinterest. Of Rora Blue’s series Handle With Care

The idea of sexism has become blurry—people don’t understand what it is. A word you say but being treated like you’re calling out ‘Wolf’. Like when you say someone is being sexist it taken with excuses, defensiveness, and/or blame on you. A book to read is Feminist Fight Club by Jessica Bennett. 254 + references about female empowerment of surviving sexism especially in the workplace; with a lot of examples because “recognizing sexism is harder than it once was.” I could go on about the book, but my consent to tell you to read the book is when you go out and read the book!  It’s empowering and insightful, giving you straight up this is how it is and why it needs to change.  

I think we honestly have a problem, after I was told I was ‘insufferable’ when I was trying to have a fun conversation and I corrected him on his wrong. After I was said to have a problem with ‘everything’ cause I was trying to joke around with him, and those are just recent examples.  I’m 100% human I’m not perfect and I don’t expect anyone to be, but we can try. We can try to move away from sexist comments and ideas because it is 2017.After reading Feminist Fight Club (which is in my Favourites post for May) I have learned where sexism is and how we should fight. And I came up with how we can try to overcome sexism like the boss women we are:

Step 1: Admitting it exists. The more we deny it and the more we give excuses or not call what it is nothing will be done.  Because she is a woman, shouldn’t even come into your thought. And saying ‘you throw like a girl’ like it’s an insult or something? isn’t an insult its old school sexist. Woman and girls are more afraid to admit the sexist comments/action because of fear of feeling like you’re going to get in trouble. That fear is irrelevant now. We need to call out the sexism and if they try to give excuses don’t take the excuse.

Step 2: Facing the truth. A lot of times people don’t want to hear that they are the bad guy/girl, so they make you out to be one. I am 100% tired of this and I don’t stand for this. Having guys call me a bitch, or say I’m being insufferable because I am calling them out or joking back at them just like they are doing it to me, is 100 emoji eye rolls. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.

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Found on Pinterest.

Step 3: Don’t Apologize. A lot of sexism happens because women are so willing to give in, we apologize more and we don’t take credit for what we’ve done in the workplace, we say “couldn’t have done without…”.  This has been going on for centuries and that’s why we are fighting to change. Change our ways of feeling the need to apologize, to give excuses and not give yourself credit. Don’t feel sorry for when you do anything or when you are standing up for yourself and against sexism.

Step 4: Handling it like a boss. Since it seems no matter when we stand up for it, we are in the wrong. Society has taught us to just say okay, be quiet, and let it go; and then when we do stand up we are called a bitch–well put a smile on your face and say it in a friendly way, because their sexism is more wrong than you being a “bitch”.

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Found on Pinterest. Rora Blue’s  series Handle With Care

Step 5: Be respectful and equal. In fights we say things we wish we never said. And in this fight we aren’t here to disrespect anyone. We are hear to call out on sexism. Perfect example is MN representative for calling out a “men” for not doing the job.  Those rep. men calling for the female MN representative to apologize for her honesty and calling out the problem is “bitch for being honest” sexism. Men, this is an important step for you.  If you are a man you can join the fight against sexism like the boss man we love and know you are. I’ve had some respectful men and guys in my life, so I know it’s not just a myth. Sexism isn’t only men vs women, women do it too (step 7) but it does come from men a lot of the time. It’s not your fault, sexism has been considered “okay” for centuries. But that’s why we are fighting to change.  Change how “because she’s a woman” is used.   This is the most important step of all the fight. And girls remember, we want to be treated and respected for the girls, the ladies and the women we are and we won’t take anything less.

Step 6: “I’m not bossy I am the boss”. The quote is from Beyonce and it’s everything. It’s stating that sexism exist, how women are fighting the sexism until it’s gone. And putting the comment of saying when a woman takes charge she is being bossy because she’s a woman when in fact she not, she’s being the boss.

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Found on Pinterest.

Step 7: Girls be for Girls! Sexism is seen between girls.  This is something that I am very tired of and needs to stop. We grow up hating and fighting each other, it started when she took my toy to she took my boyfriend to jealousy of success. But that’s why we are fighting to change. The more successful woman there are the more there will be! We need to stick together on this, girls, ladies. We need to link our arms and show that we are united. We might not agree on a lot of things but we can agree that we, woman, can do anything even in heels!

Step 8: Embrace Girls, Ladies and Woman. We are just trying to create a better place that allows girls to know they do throw just as good as boys, or better. To not live in a place where it’s such a shocker that women are strong and independent and know what they are talking about, to take what they say and listen. So girls, ladies, women, be a strong willed, independent women. World get ready because if you can’t handle it well there is going to be a problem because we are here to stay!

One way or another we have experienced sexism. And it really is time we live in a world where girls are just as equal as boys, are not consider a bitch for being honest and throwing like a girl isn’t an insult. Because really girls, to be a strong independent willing woman/girl is sometimes hard to be but we will be her anyways.

 

Let’s talk about A Day without women

 

The purpose of A Day Without Women wasn’t to cause chaos, but to show awareness of the importance of women in society in the work force and in the economy. It was a movement for women to be treated with respect and equality. AND men were NOT forgotten in this.strong-women-featured

So let’s get into why someone may “hate” on A Day Without Women. Maybe they saw that there was no point. Maybe for them, they were perfectly fine, but that’s them–there are more people in this world than just “you” who are not getting the same amount of respect, and benefits as you.  Some may even feel threatened. My favorite quote of all is “strong women scare weak men” BECAUSE its 100% true. We see it all the time, not only with men but with other women. They can’t handle a strong-willed person and get defensive for no reason. I will never understand these people. Then there are people who are just immature, some of which I had to deal with when I posted on my Instagram post to show support for women. I won’t call them out or say what was said but I’ve seen it too many times before and it needs to stop. These actions are what I expected would happen on March 8th. And it’s something I am tired of. BUT the negativity wasn’t loud enough to take away the importance of the movement.

Social media blew up, people, both men and women, showed their support. I loved seeing all the posts about women: the quotes, the words, the pictures, the little girls with their signs. I’d say we blew up everyone’s news feed, letting them know we are here! And it was not just a state-wide movement; it was world-wide. Ireland was striking to repeal the 8th.  It was a day to show awareness, to speak up, and to let society and governments know WOMEN are needed and deserve to not only be heard but to be treated with respect and equality.

I would have LOVED to have been at one of the events, but instead I wore red to show my solidarity.

img_4257The reason I am so passionate about women’s issues is not only because I am a woman, but also because over the years, I have felt both the struggles and the shames of being a women. Don’t get me wrong, I grew up in a house were my dad who never taught me and my sister that we couldn’t do anything case we were girls. He wanted us to do anything we wanted, but better. It wasn’t until I entered the world that I began apologizing for everything, feeling this shame, and struggling with myself and society. I was losing confidence. I found that I lost more and more of as I further entered the world, but why? Perhaps it is because I am a women. And that shouldn’t be the case.

I was silent for a really long time, but not anymore.

I began to find the voice and confidence in myself and understand the importance to not simply sit still and look pretty or just smile and say yes. Rather, I learned to speak up and to point out the wrongs when I saw them, all while maintaining a very Chrissy T mentality. I know the best way to respond to negativity or hate is silence but we’ve been silent for too long.We tried to get by, pushing our way to the top, saying no, wearing what we want to wear with no fear but it still wasn’t enough. Our silence wasn’t enough; we were still not getting equality, still seen with a “well, you’re a girl” mentality, called a bitch for speaking up, and having our rights to our bodies questioned. And that was what March 8th was all about: to break our silence so they would finally hear us!

I thrived off of this empowerment, wanting to take on the world with no fear or apologies. And really, I mention this in my women’s march post. We need this especially now, this sisterhood and love for each other is more important than ever, in this time where hate seems to be louder. The future is female!

And for the haters or people being negative on the day or towards any women or girl–you are sadly part of the problem.We fight for ourselves because of you.

 

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