A City Girl Story: Behind Blogging

Why some things don’t work out.
When I decided to put more effort into blogging I decided to join and invest into groups that I thought would give me a leg up in blogging. I thought joining them would tell me what I didn’t already know or give me opportunities. What I learned was I really didn’t need any of it.
Sure, joining enabled me to network and connect with more people, which I liked but I have done that a lot on my own. And sometimes adding the hashtags just didn’t work, or the people in the network just weren’t people I could relate to which was disappointing. They were also telling me what I already knew, and I’d heard over and over again, like SEO, domains, content, and hashtags. I soon began to realize that just like in life, single holiday’s, becoming a writer, I could do it all on my own.
For example, getting ads or working with other people. I’ve gotten e-mails, and even the group I joined had opportunities where I could get paid, which I know ads on blogs seem so wrong. But, I want to make a living, and also it doesn’t seem to bother people to have ads, especially if they are still following, watching and reading the content. So, I never get why people complain when people have sponsorships. I understand if it sounds fake. For me what the organization or what was being e-mailed to me was all too over priced, nothing I would ever wear, or seemed like they were just trying to get my money. Plus, they would take over my Instagram, or I would pay them for 24 hours of posts which would give me a set number of followers. All I could think was that this was my instgram and how could they ensure I would get that many REAL followers.

I do not like to conform or if making this into a career means giving up myself, being told what to do, then what the hell was I doing here?
I began to hate it. I wanted to take away my e-mail. I wanted to diconnect myself. Because I knew I personally did not like that, I don’t like the idea of putting or working with others that just weren’t me. I didn’t want to go into these dressing rooms to try on clothes just to get paid. But, what was a girl suppose to do get her blog noticed? To get herself notice? A question I began to ask myself a lot lately.
Postive side. The group I joined had an interview with bloggers/business women in media who said that small groups are better; they connect better with their followers. I 100% agree. When I follow someone who has 1.5 K followers I don’t feel as “close” to them as I would with someone who has 300. It’s all about the little people.
I don’t see my blog as the typical blog.  I think a lot of the time it’s hard to be original and have it get noticed. It’s even harder to like a trend and stand out. It’s hard to be real in social media all together. I’m not doing this to be liked, I’m doing it because I love it. I love taking pictures, I love creating content, I love writing, I love sharing stories.

 
I do struggle in creating content for each post. I do find it difficult to go further with my blogging because I know I’m not typical, nor do I want to be. I don’t know if what I have to say will bring others in or want to work with me, but it doesn’t matter because I blog because I enjoy this type of writing. Plus, when I did get more than 100 likes on a post it doesn’t bring me satisfaction, it gives me anxiety when my phone constantly blows up with notifications.

This post is saying how I will always keep it real, that when I do work with someone or a businesses you will know I am still being 100% me, and to remember I am doing this because of my passsion for writing and all on my own.

We are keeping it real.

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Update on A City Girl Story blog

 

img_6726Blogging isn’t just keeping up with a blog anymore. And even though it isn’t my job, it’s something I like writing and want to do more with it. 

This weekend I was thinking about my social media platforms for A City Girl Story and what I could do to improve them. But, I hesitated because when it comes to public things there are rude and creepy people out there–like in real life you have to be safe. And knowing this I pull myself back. Yet I feel that shouldn’t stop me from doing what I love and want to do.  I’m not going to be sharing personal things but sharing things that is A City Girl Story for people to develop a connection to my blog. This may make sense once I go into what I’m planning to do.

Because I want to make good blog posts that are worth reading, as well as good content for each post, one blog post a week is all I can do.  If something changes and I have a lot more time during the weekend then maybe there could be two. If you want to know what to expect from the blog in 2017, you can read it here.  And because social media comes in handy, it can be quick and easy to share something. And that is what I am going to do.

I am not going to change anything for my Instagram account. I love Instagram and having this one really helps not only my creativity but my ability to share all the photographs I snap. Some days I really struggle other days I explode. So if you follow me on Instagram nothing is going to change. For Facebook I’m going to post a lot more links, quotes, and style trends. But, I am only going to post as often as I feel the topics are relevant to A City Girl Story. Having a facebook page will allow me to share more inspiration stuff because that is what A City Girl Story is all about. 

So follow Instagram and Facebook for more of A City Girl Story. All the links to them are in the right corner.

xox

kole

2017 & A City Girl Story.

What’s to become of A City Girl Story in 2017.

If you follow me you know that A City Girl Story is my voice, my story, and a place where I write about things that I know and feel would be interesting to share with my readers. I’m writing for the every day girl because I am an every day girl. A City Girl story is a blog for people to read, enjoy, get advice from, and maybe become inspired. Sometimes I will write about personal things like my disability, but I am careful to be selective on what I share so that I am no too exposed. I will never hold a camera to my face and I will keep some moments of my life private because those moments aren’t a city girl story.

That being said I have some plans for 2017 for A City Girl Story, I plan to do:

  • creative writingI’ve said this a lot and I really want to put my writing on my blog, but its harder to share because a lot of creative stuff take time, edit, writing, and rewriting. But I’m quite fast. 
  • topics.  I’d like to talk about more issues that girls face. I’ve done a few pieces like these, a lot more talked about in my “city girl story” post. However I’d like to go away from the “I” and into more ‘looking at it’, lets talk about it issues like body confidence.  
  • more on style.  I say this a lot but I never really do  it, I post pictures and if I am in them I have clothes on but I never really did like a lookbook.
  • share my photography. not on my blog, but through A City Girl Story with a new Instagram account called Where She Stood. I am going to test the waters because it’s something to do during the evening. While some people read books, I edit photos.

A lot of these things are for me to just get myself out there more, to not be afraid or second guess myself and just post them out. I’ve done a lot of research about blogging and I learned to really be a good blogger you have to,

  • Put in the time and effort
  • prepare and plan
  • have good content
  • network and communicate with other bloggers
  • love it!

I’m learning that my skills I used in school planning, being organized and always being two weeks ahead editing, and really working at something are still useful. Those things will help me not only with blogging but to become a better writer and get me where I want to be in life. Because I want to get more into blogging, which I do, I post once a week, but I feel like I can do a lot more-I can create so much more then what I have done. And I thought I was going to go at in October but I wasn’t ready. Now 2017 I’ve done my research, I figured out what works, and how to put in my time and effort. Of course, content!

So what is to become of my blog A City Girl Story? I want it to become a voice for all girls! 

A City Girl story Update: photography

Photography is a hobby but I want it to be more….

2If you haven’t notice I love taking photos. I love taking them either if its just taking pictures to remember something, or to create content, or even to tell a story, put words and pictures together. But most of all I like photography. I’m basically snap happy. However, I just don’t take photos to have, I have a background and knowledge in it. And these classes forced me to think critical and with a purpose when taking photographs. I remember in one of my many visual, photography classes he shared Dorothea Lange photographs of the great depression, she was suppose to take pictures to share what life is like for people affected by the great depression. She took many, but there is one that said it all and everyone hasn’t forgotten:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Depression#/media/File:Lange-MigrantMother02.jpg

I always remember that lesson.

I have different aspects of photography just like in my writing. Like actually take pictures for a the human eye, take pictures to tell stories vs just taking pictures to share. Over the years I have taken pictures, I’ve shared them but I didn’t know what to do with my photos that I’d consider freelance/professional photographs. I had a Flickr but it wasn’t getting me anywhere. I decided to join this site, 500 px. which is like a cool version of Flickr which had a lot more going for me once I joined hitting the “popular” page a few times, however, it seems to only be for photographs. And well me being me not really someone who doesn’t really like to sell herself or put herself out there, I wasn’t going to do more. Yet, I wanted to.

Thus, I began to think about how to put my photographer with blogging even though they are different. And I’m trying it out a lot on instagram and having my creative post Fridays with my stories and photographer- volume 1 is here. I’m just hoping to do something with my photographs without them being something on Facebook or on my hard drives. It’s a hobby I’d like to share and if doesn’t work maybe I will create a instagram for them but I don’t want people to question me having two- you know?

It’s a circle I keep entering and going around in. And wanted to let you know what you should expect to come. Check out my 500 px or comment below if you have any suggestions 🙂

xox

Kole.

A City Girl Guide: Uptown places to hit and places to miss

I’ve been adventuring to uptown a lot to really find the best places to go. It’s probably the most popular place with 20 something kids.

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Back in the day it was a thriving, local, cultural filled with hipsters. Now it’s still there but as I walked around I found myself more overwhelmed in traffic and college guys. Each street was fancy and buzy as the next, there was a lot of shops like H&M, Urban Outfitters, with Mac shop across the street to vintage shops and classic records stores next to a run down for sale building next to a sex book shop. Uptown is open to all but the classic things that really make a place either weren’t there or were being left to rotten over time. Don’t get me wrong there is a lot of things in Uptown that are great and what bring people here, like the art fair this weekend (August __&_). Being able to live here, if can afford it, is perfect because everything is a walk away and a bus right to down town. There the lakes to walk around or run, even bike. Here are a few places you should hit up when in Uptown (and few things to pass on).

  • Stella’s Fish Cafe: It can be a little over price but you are getting sea food and there is no sea in Minnesota despite what people may think with all our lakes and referring it to as “beach”.  But there happy hour is pretty nice with 2 beers and the 2nd one for a dollar. Take a stop in, but get there early so you can get the happy hour and beat the crowd. Try out the roof top in the summer you’ll get a nice view of Uptown.

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  • Libertine: across from Stella’s the happy hour is alright but the atmosphere and serves is pretty nice. We had a really friendly willing to chat with us waiter while we enjoyed our pints. What I really liked about this place was fact it had games, like yard games, beer pond, janga- I don’t know why you need games at a bar but perfect for those awkward first dates. I also loved the words they had around the place.
  • LynLake Brewery: Off Lyndale Street sits a place that every time I have gone to Uptown I ended up here. Which if you follow me or know me at all that SAYS a lot. I’ve try a lot of brewery’s in a SEA of Brewery in Minnesota and this is the only one were I got a drink and I actually liked it. Coming from 2 years of Ciders (which was not seen with an EYE ROLL) and good Heineken trying to find a good drink has been hard.  They have a roof top that really has good views, large tables so you have to sit with people you don’t know! And the servers are pretty friendly, which again I LOVE. So definitely check them out!lynlakebrewery.jpg
  • Up Down: an Arcade bar with a lot of old school games, pinball, and ske Ball. This place is super fun, but it doesn’t get packed there isn’t a lot of room to move around. And sometimes you have to really wait for a game to open, which might be awhile if the person isn’t willing to be like “okay we had 4 tries let’s give others a chance.” There really isn’t much place to sit, so you might end up in a game that you have no idea what your doing or the point-it could be fun! I say the best time to go is on a Saturday that’s the best deal with paying 5 for double the tokens and you never know you might have people handing you there extras before they leave!

What I’ve  walked the streets of Uptown and the neighborhoods I really avoid all the general chains and anything that is in a strip try to keep to the main streets like Lyndale and dig deep for the good places. One place I want to try is this pizza joint on Lyndale across from the VFW bar.  There is a really almost similar feel of San Fran to this place with restaurants in houses, which I liked a lot when I was in San Fran but here I don’t know there not calling to me. The only place that’s ice cream is Milkjam, which has the LONGEST Que! It’s a popular on instagram so no question why there it is popular. But is it worth it? Are they good to feed me personally? Or is it all for that shot? The question I ask myself, but I never once had the patients to even go in the line.  A lot of the places can be packed with people. And that’s the one thing I really don’t really enjoy much about uptown, there is something lost in how popular it’s become.

Over all, I wouldn’t say I’m packing up my bags to move in, if I could even afraid it, I think if you want a place that is going to give you a lot, that is well known and your visiting definitely come to Uptown, walk the lakes, hit up LynLake.

Next week we are talking about an area that doesn’t want to become Uptown at all.

Trying to make it in the working world, the truth from a 20 something girl with a masters.

you hear it over and over again, we are snowflakes, lazy generation. And my response is you don’t know my life. So, if you really want to know what it’s like to be a millennium trying to make a life for herself in a society that makes you feel like you need to have that house, job, and so much by now read. 

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Holding my completed thesis from University College Cork.

If you’re not following me on instagram, why aren’t you? I posted something middle of July of a long caption basically confessing how I am going through something personal and how I think about if I don’t share it am I even being real. And how sometimes not sharing is just fine. THIS BLOG POST is me telling what’s going on, it wasn’t going to be it was going to be how to get through difficult days, but how many list can you read. I decided that after having the 100th disappointment come my way after 9 months of chugging alone, feeling so discourage, losing my determination;  I should write this what if someone else out there is in the same boat. 

People keep telling me that it’ll work out in the end, something will come soon. And how lucky they have so a positive perspective, I am not an optimistic at all–I’ve been disappointed and crushed by high hopes for so long I will admit I am bitter. What drives me is my determination, my mind set for when I want something there is no stopping me. But after so many ‘strike outs’ I don’t have that determination, I have frustration and tears, and fears that for the rest of my life I’m not going to get pass working retail and will never have that life I left Ireland for. It’s like I’m back in my final year of college trying to pass English Syntax; getting those test back with D’s all over them while the guy next to me got an A, but saw he had something marked off and he’s ready to fight. OH I”M DONE! That is exactly how I feel every time when I don’t get that job.

I began to wonder what can I do. Is it because of my blog? Being so honest and real, people don’t like that, talking about being a women in this world, having a learning disability. I wonder how other ladies do it, how they are so successful, how they make it through so many no’s to their face. I really get discourage when I find out they’re younger then me, and I’m like did I miss my door? Never compare yourself. 

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here’s a puppy to make life a little better

I read so many articles of millennium and the statistics of how we aren’t lazy but how we are a generation with the largest of jobless careers. (when I find that article I read I’ll link it here). What do you expect when they want for experience is 10 years and you’re like at 14, I was babysitting. Or what about how they combine writing with web page design. The pressure of societies expectations, from relatives faces, fact you knew how great your life was and now look at yourself. You can’t help but feel like a total fucking failure.  I’m not saying this cause I want pity I’m saying this to let ladies out there who are feeling like shit, disappointed, and looking them selves in the mirror with disappointment–that you’re not alone on the whole fucking suck scale. And you wish people will stop telling you it’ll work out because all you want is for it to JUST work out!

Because all you want is a life, for that apartment in the city, to afford the apartment in the city, to have benefits–don’t even get me started. To not feel like despite having a masters you’re worth it. To not feel like you wasted 4 years of a degree. They told you to go to college and that’s not even enough. SCREAM!

10 minutes and a work out later. I bounce back, with still struggles, still so many questions what else can I do, feel discourage for you don’t even know. The struggle is there are a lot of people out there-250 people applied for that position, the baby boomers are still working. And you’re kind of what can you bring to the table other than “yourself.” You really got to sell yourself, something I’m really trying to work on. I was asked “why me” the first time I answered:  “oh god what if the other person is nice,” that shows my character but guess you can’t show that your a caring person. Then the struggle in finding that actual job you want.  Honestly feel like this side of the world really does not put a lot of credit to creative jobs or people. For instance, I see other girls making content for a coffee shop or a pub in England. Here there is nothing like that. Trust me I looked, I even try doing freelance positions but again I feel like its the door thing & not much out there. It is worst than Ikea directions! 

quote.jpgThough, I don’t have any suggestions on what more can you do, what can you put on your CV or in cover letters, because I am still trying to figure that out. What I can tell you is so many times in school after failure, failing out of syntax and actually getting into my car ready to drop out of college, the fact I didn’t, those struggles were hard but I got through them. Look at all the stories I’ve said, the moments I shared.  I am not a patient and high hopes person, like I said, but I do know failure always wins. So I say take a break, try to take the pressure off yourself and wait to apply when you’re not feeling so discouraged but feeling confident. So many times when I bounce back still having tears in my eyes, looking at jobs kind of just makes it worst. I get it you want to have that career, you want to get out of this shit whole your feeling, you want to use what you not only went to school for, but love doing. And you just wish it would! My friend told me that there’s an Irish saying “whats for you won’t pass you” & so far a lot of the things/people that have pass me were never for me, it took awhile to realise that, so I believe in that saying.

WOW. that felt good to write. If you too are going through the same struggles and frustration let me know if this helped in anyway, or have any advise. That is why I wrote this not for pity I said it because someone else out there is probably sitting on her bedroom floor screaming into a pillow and wanting to give up just let her life be what it is.